Even if you have never held your child in your arms, you have held them in your body and in your heart, and there's no closer connection between two people. You are a mother! And should mark your day in a manner that recognizes that and gives you comfort.

Here are some ideas to mark the day...

Let others know if, and to what extent you would like to celebrate. As many relatives are not sure what to do, being careful not to upset you.

If you find it difficult to talk to others about what you'd like, make your own plans. Decide what you would like to do and do it. Then you can include those close to you if you'd like.

Wear something for the day that symbolizes your baby to you. Jewellery with your child's birthstone or name, a flower, even your favourite colour. You can even put in your pocket a piece of paper with your baby's name on it.

Send a card from you and your baby to a woman that has supported you through your ordeal even if she's not a mother.

Give your mother a card/gift from your baby. She may be feeling the loss of her missing grandchild too.

Treat yourself! Do something that makes you happy. Eat chocolate, go to lunch or a movie.

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